Serendipity Tips: Wedding Etiquette {toledo wedding photography}

We’ve almost made it!  Almost to the end of this long, never ending winter!  What that means to us is not barbecues, flip flops & vacations- it means wedding season is right around the corner



Shooting 30 weddings a year, you’d think we’ve “seen it all”.   Yet, somehow, we’re always surprised.  There’s always something that makes us say “whoa…” While we never want to embarrass or offend anyone with a post about wedding day etiquette, we thought we would give some suggestions to anyone planning on attending a wedding this season.  Believe me, we have loads of photos we could insert with this blog post, but being the polite gals we are, we’ll choose not to illustrate this post with actual images.


 ~Be on time. If, by no means possible, can you get to the ceremony before it begins- please do not walk in front of the Bride as she’s entering the church to get to your seat. For real, don’t do that. Stand back. Out of the way. Once she has made her lovely entrance upfront, you (the guest) can quietly sneak in & find a seat.



     ~Babies & kids are sweet. Everyone loves them. They were invited because the bride and groom absolutely love them.  Yep, you know what’s coming. If they are crying, take them out of the church. They won’t care that they miss the homily. You (the guest) may miss the exchange of the rings, but you will be spared everyone glancing over at you wondering when you are going to take your sweet baby/kid to the cry room.


~Don’t wear your bathing suit to the church. Ummm, yes. I did say don’t wear your bathing suit to the church. Even if it’s under a terry cloth cover up, it’s still a swim suit at a church wedding. Yes, we have certainly seen it happen. I know. I know. There’s 4 hours between the ceremony & the reception & it’s a really nice Saturday in June. Slip on a dress…and let your pool hair dry before the big event. When deciding what is appropriate to wear to a wedding, think of what your Mom or Grandma would say. If there’s a chance they would raise their eyebrows at you, it may just not be the best choice.


~Here it is. Now I must touch on the topic of photography.   Pictures.  iPads. Cell phone cameras.   While we understand we are not going to be the only ones taking photos of the big day, we would like to make a plea.  A plea, not a suggestion.

Many people think if they stick their cell phone in the aisle “super quick”,  it won’t interfere with our pictures. Unfortunately, in that super quick moment, the beautiful image of the bride being escorted by her dad now has your hand & cell phone in it.  When you lean out of the aisle to get a shot, you’ve now blocked the bride all together.  Perhaps you’re not only blocking my view, but that of the groom.  I have positioned myself low & out of his way so he can see his bride coming down the aisle.  Now you, Aunt in the bright red dress, leaning out inconspicuously, with your large iPad, are blocking both of us. Not like I can reposition in that 3 seconds I have to capture the most important image they are paying me to get. In all seriousness, this is becoming an occurrence at the majority of weddings we shoot. For the sake of our beautiful couple, let’s leave the cameras in our bags during the ceremony.


     ~We don’t tell guests they cannot shoot while we are shooting the family pictures after the ceremony.  We do ask, nicely, to not interfere if we need to. Interfering would consist of: standing on your tip toes, leaning over my shoulder; asking everyone to hold that while you take one quick shot…”wait it didn’t work”; being distracting so the couple & the families are looking everywhere but at us. Stand back a few aisles & take pics if you must. Your pop up flash will not interfere with our images, but disruptions to our schedule will.


     ~Let them have their moment. Capturing those special moments on the wedding day often means leaving them alone; let the Bride & Groom have some time after the ceremony to themselves (and we’ll capture some sweet smiles), shoot from a distance when dad & his daughter are having their special dance to capture those tears.  Please please do not walk up on the dance floor, with your iPad & holler for them to “look over here”!  I may just embarrass you if you do…



While I could go on & on, I’ll leave it at that.  I’m sure this may sound a bit ridiculous to some, a bit realistic to others (our wedding co-vendors, I can hear you laughing)!  Just remember, be considerate, be a guest & have fun!  (Not too much fun though -that’s another blog post!). Cheers to a wonderful wedding season, full of unforgettable memories and celebration for the couples we love!